March - I Hate

Hellooooo everybody! I’m excited to write this month <3 Taking into account that life goes the way it does and it’s already the last day of March and it’s pretty late and I’m reaaaaally tired, I’m suspecting this to be a little shorter than usual <3. But I think that’s good - let’s keep it simple :)

This month’s song: “I Hate” by Passenger.

 

To each other, oh brother I have love for my mother

For good times, for music and my mates

Yeah I laugh, and I love and I have love to give

But sometimes all you can do is hate

 

Heads up, this song is not the easiest for me to write about this month - and in general - bc I’ve been feeling so grateful for all things around me <3 But I still got some things to say haha!

Sooo, I really try to be a positive person and that’s also one thing that my friends will always say about me. But sometimes I just like everybody else just gotta let some things out and go complain to a good friend. Smetimes those kinda feelings cave in too.

Idk when that was, but I was complaining to Ina about something and yet always throwing in sentences to make up for my complaining in some way or form. And she was like “you know you can just complain too, right? those feelings are valid. no one is expecting you to be the positive sunshine 24/7.” And that stuck with me. I mean, I don’t think anything will stop me from trying to see something positive in whatever’s happening. But we can all agree - some things you just need a good rant about with your best friends and the world will seem a bit lighter. A person you just really cannot stand, some dumbass homework you don’t want to do… whatever it might be. A good rant should neeeever be underrated.

 

The song makes me smile when I hear it bc I love the tone of his voice when he’s singing it in the Live Recording from London. The smile in his voice. It shows that he’d probably rather be talking about things he loves, but, sometimes, he just needs to put his whole heart into a song about things that bug him <3

 

On the topic of things that bug him (me TOO!):

 

I hate ignorant folks, who pay money to see gigs

And talk through every fucking song

 

Idk if that’s just me, but I absolutely hate when you’re at a concert and the musician is singing a freaking awesome part of their song, they’re putting their whole entire heart into it, it’s quiet in the stadium and then some idiots start yelling into that intimate moment of a song - I could honestly kick them out the stadium hahaha. Oh well I guess, who’s gonna change an idiot my dad always says :).

 

I told you it was gonna be a little harder for me to write about this one and man it really is haha! That’s why I love the contradiction of our title photo <3 Even if there’s always gonna be things that’ll drive you crazy, there’s so much to love in this world. And I say that’s even more important and stronger than most other feelings. Way way way more <3

Well and since it’s March and I wanna end this month on a really good note I just wanna say - I hope y’all find many many things to love in your life and that y’all can still let off some steam ranting about certain things that just have to be ranted about xD

 

Thank you so so much for reading! Can’t wait to talk in April :) xoxo <3

 

Lots of love, Lina 

Hey people, we’ve got another great song for you this month: “I Hate” by Passenger! Can you believe that the last time we wrote about a Passenger song was in April 2023?! It’s about time to bring that back!

I really enjoy this song, because its message is so unlike most other songs. Sure, there might be some that maybe try to say similar things, but Mike wrote this in such a straightforward way, it’s really refreshing!

 

oh brother I have love for my mother
For good times, for music and my mates
Yeah I laugh, and live and I have love to give
But sometimes all you can do is hate

 

True that huh. Lina also mentioned this in her text, but we had a conversation a little while back, where she complained to me about something while interrupting herself constantly, still trying to see positives and justifying her negative feelings. At some point I cut in and told her that you are allowed to sometimes feel bad or angry or frustrated, and also express those things. You don’t always need to be desperately searching for the good things.

I believe that this pressure to always be grateful for what you have and see the good in everyone and everything and think positive thoughts at all times, can actually be very harmful. In my experience, it often made me feel even worse than I was already feeling when I got told to look on the bright side. Because I couldn’t – can’t – help my emotions. Sure, I can try to tone it down, but if I bottle everything up and don’t express what I’m experiencing, I’m gonna snap at some point. So people being like “Oh you’re sad, but look you have a roof over your head and enough food and parents who are there for you, …” made me feel guilty about feeling the way I did.

Of course, all of what they said is true – and just to make it clear, I know that I am very privileged in that matter and am very incredibly thankful – but I won’t allow that to invalidate my feelings. Every human on earth, no matter their circumstances, is allowed to feel bad.

So, long story short, I appreciate this song for letting me scream along to all of these things that Passenger hates without feeling bad about it!

 

Lots of what he sings about is pretty trivial, like fussy eaters, queuing up for festival toilets or pointless status updates on Facebook, silly little things that many of us can probably relate to. But he also mentions racist or ignorant people, how media influences teens in harmful ways or the glorification of unhealthy beauty standards, which are all terrible, terrible things that deserve all the hate they get.

 

So, all in all, I love this song, love its message, love the artist, and love that it helps me express negativity in a fun and (in my opinion) healthy way! (I mean, I still go on complaining about things I don’t like or have issues with to my friends or my sister, or I sometimes even talk to myself to clear my head, but singing along to “I Hate” is juuuust a little more fun😉) And see, now I can say, that I am grateful and happy about being able to hate things without being made to feel bad! It’s very freeing and I highly recommend trying it some time <333

 

To finish this up, I’ll link my favourite version of this song up in the introduction for you to check out (it’s also on Spotify) and put the original version from the album into our playlists!

 

Happy hating everyone!

 

Love, Ina