October - Nothing Stays The Same

Welcome to October’s blog post everyone! I am so glad the weather is finally adapting to the season, let me tell you! Gloomy mornings with rain and fog are my absolute favourite in October and November and a song that, in my opinion at least, sounds exactly like one of these mornings is “Nothing Stays The Same” by British singer-songwriter Luke Sital-Singh. I actually saw him perform, when he opened for Passenger on his tour about a year ago. I was there with my dad and we were waiting for the concert to start, they had some background music on in the meantime. I distinctly remember this song coming on and me recognizing it, because I had by chance added it to one of my Spotify playlists in the summer before and enjoyed it quite a bit. For some reason I hadn’t yet heard of who was going to open the night, so guess how excited I felt when I found out that Luke was actually there and about to play!! And oh wow when he played “Nothing Stays The Same” I was blown away. I might even have shed a tear or two ;) . Still, to this day, I sometimes pull up the video I took of his performance (thank goodness I recorded it!!) to get those goosebumps all over my body.

So, even though I cannot share that experience with you, I can at least spread the word about this amazing song!

 

I actually didn’t think too hard about the lyrics for a few months after discovering the song and only after seeing it live, did I look the words up and thought about them a little more.

 

I can face it just about
I'd rather hurt than live without
But I will rage and scream and shout
A love, a life, it's dark and bright
It's beautiful and it's alright

 

At its core this song says that life is everchanging and that there will be good and bad happening to everyone, but we should never let that stop us from chasing our passions and truly living. “A love, a life, it’s dark and bright, it’s beautiful and it’s alright” To say that you’d rather experience every emotion, including the inevitable terrible and heartbreaking ones, than not feeling at all is so powerful. To say that “I'd rather hurt than live without” is a sign of incredible strength that not everyone can simply agree on. I know enough people who struggle with accepting that. Hell, I myself often do. Why do I have to deal with all these hurtful and devastating feelings, just to be alive? Every now and then I wonder why and how and who came up with this shit?! But one choice I’d never make (should the possibility ever arise ;)), is to choose to live without any emotions at all just to escape the negative ones. I would never ever give up the privilege to feel. Never again feeling happy because I can see my friend whom I haven’t met up with in months? Never again feeling grateful because I have sushi in my life? Never again feeling amazed by the breathtaking nature right outside my house? Never again feeling relaxed, reading a book with a cat next to me? No, not for anything! I’ll gladly take any sorrow, sadness and pain, as long as I can still experience all of these things and more. Feeling is a part of being human. Which is exactly the point.

 

We all hurt
We all lie
And nothing stays the same

…

We all bleed
We all breathe
And nothing stays the same

We all experience most of these things one way or another. Every human feels grief or worry sometimes, but also relief and joy. And – nothing stays the same! Even if you hurt and lie and bleed, things will change eventually.

 

Cry your eyes out
Fill your lungs up
…
Let your guard down
Get your heart pounded

Do not let anything or anyone at all stop you from feeling the most that you can and showing it too! I say this while being someone who naturally doesn’t show grief for example. I attended two funerals of family members in the last year and I did not cry. Not until I saw someone cry, who never, ever does. That’s when I realized that even the people who do not show what they’re feeling, do feel something. Even the people you think are untouchable have emotions, they might just not let them out. In my case, my sister and mother tend to get very emotional very easily and when I see them break down, I take it upon myself to be “strong” and take care of things until they “recover” if you will. And I do that automatically most of the time. I have to remind myself that showing what you’re feeling isn’t a weakness at all, it is a strength. To be able to show what you look like on the inside to the outer world, and then get back up and continue with life, is incredibly admirable. And I, just like many many others should take Luke Sital-Singh’s words to heart and cry our eyes out and let our guards down sometimes.

 

We all believe in something that'll rip us into shreds
We all know why it stings to open up your chest
We all show signs of greatness that we hope that someone sees
Our broken teeth are scattered but we're smiling underneath
A thousand bruising muscles still we're running on and on
We all know names that ring like thunder rattling our walls
Everyone is yearning for a reason for a cause
Somewhere deep inside we're holding on for dear life

 

The bridge of this song is what really gets things going for me. It’s upbeat and passionate and stirring and that is also what I think it’s telling us to do. Be passionate and open and keep running towards your dreams and keep holding on.

Because it’s true, really. Everyone of us has something they are passionate about, and this could be the most trivial things like … I don’t know different types of noodles or something. So, let’s be passionate and embrace these emotions!

And everyone of us has at least tried to let their guard down before and some might have gotten hurt along the way.

Everyone of us has value and is important, but sometimes it needs someone else to see that and reassure you to actually get you to step into who you are.

We all have been hurt before, we all have been trying to be the best that we can be, we all are longing for something to belong to, and we all are holding on for dear life. There’s not a single person who’s just had it happy and easy all their life.

 

We all hurt
We all learned
That nothing stays the same

 

That’s the bottom line, really. Yes, we all hurt. Life hurts sometimes. But it also gives us sunsets, friendships, sushi, nature, music, books and cats, and so much more. And it teaches us things. It teaches us that nothing stays the same. Things change and life doesn’t ever stay still. So just run along with it and make the best of what it gives you!

 

Love, Ina

Heeeeey everybody! I hope y’all had an amazing October! 

I’m actually a little late writing this post this month whoops…. and I’m actually at Ina and her sister’s house while writing this :) Also: there’s a few things being done about the whole website setup right now and I love it! <3 So here’s what we’ve picked for October: “Nothing Stays The Same” by Luke Sital-Singh. It’s funny because I wanted to write about this song last year and Ina wanted to write about it last year but somehow communication failed us and so here we are hahaha… I LOVE this song. Makes me tear up more often that I would like it to <3 

 

I just feel like it’s such a freeing song. You listen to it and it’s like a hug that says “Hey everything is okay. This little life of yours is just fine as it is. You're good.” 

 

Cry your eyes out

Fill your lungs up

We all hurt

We all lie

And nothing stays the same

 

Nothing really ever stays the same :) Man sometimes there were times when I was wishing so hard for them to pass by. And then there were the ones where I did not want to let go for the life of me, didn’t want time to go by that quickly. And I’ve got this one thing that I want to say about that - to just accept what is :) -

 

I can face it just about

I’d rather hurt than life without 

But I will rage and scream and shout 

A love, a life, it’s dark and bright 

It’s beautiful and it’s alright 

 

I don’t think I’ve ever laughed as much as I have with my two people here. And I’m sitting here on their couch chair, “Cherry Wine” by Hozier playing, Ina, Jana and their parents talking the way they do and it’s homey. And I’ve sat here so many times before during different times of my life. I think that’s a good example. There’s things that will change. And then there’s things that last. Because I sat in this couch chair when I came to their house and wasn’t feeling well because quarantine was being hard on me. I’ve sat here when the guy I’d been close with for so long suddenly wasn’t that close anymore. I’ve sat in this chair watching them play billiards and being super happy just being where I was. I sat in this couch chair on New Year's Eve knowing that I’d want to go abroad and that meant I wouldn’t see them for a longer time anymore. I even fell out of this couch chair once. And now I’m sitting here just thinking how blessed I am, not knowing what the future will bring but believing that it will be awesome. Times changed. But what was always the same was that they were there, always. By my side. 

 

I think this just reminds me that everything passes. Nothing is constant. And we can see that as a good thing just as well as a bad thing but I think that if we accept it as both, that’s how we’ll come to get along with it. That’s how we’ll find our peace with it :)

 

So yes, nothing stays the same. But some things do last. Pls don’t hate me for contradicting myself all the time, this is hard… xD Of course you could tell me now that something could happen and we somehow wouldn’t be friends anymore. Sure. But I wouldn’t believe you because a) I’m way too stubborn and b) I just know that won’t happen because I know us and I know that I wouldn’t let it happen. 

 

I’m really not trying for this to sound cheesy, but I do believe that :) and I hope that you can too! That you can live your life thinking “Yeah this is good, this needs to be happening right now. And it won’t be like that forever. So I’ll make the best of what I have now. And I’ll go from there.” 

 

Let your guard down 

Get your heart pushed 

We all bleed 

We all breathe 

And nothing stays the same 

We hold out 

For someday 

And nothing stays the same 

 

And I think another thing I love about this song is that it says that you gotta let life be life. Not make it more complicated than it is. Hell, sometimes I need a good cry. Or I’ll need a day in bed or a day where I don’t feel like myself. Because only through that I’ll find back to myself. We gotta let ourselves feel. All the feels. I know that there are days where all you can think is whether things will ever be good again. Of course they will :) Hurt, grief, tears… all needed. And after that there’ll come a rainbow :)

 

It’s more than okay to let your guard down. It’s more than okay to take the time you need. After all, this is your life. It’ll always be yours. And with all its twists and turns, you’ll come along. Through everything. And out of all these pieces, fractions and snippets your life will come together. Beautifully arranged through love and tears and chaos and excitement and laughter and all the things that make your life worth living. Enjoy that nothing stays the same because this is what makes life so annoyingly interesting :)

 

Sending hugs! <3

 

Love, Lina :)